The problem was not just how I looked - which was uncharismatic - but also the soreness along my spine, especially at the cervical spine, just below the nape of my neck. The soreness made me tired and looking tired deteriorated my charisma even more.
The Upright ads were interesting, but the device was overpriced for something that just buzzes when you are not upright. If I knew how to be upright, I could make myself be upright without reminders. But I had consciously tried to make myself stand and sit upright and just couldn't get it right.
Recently, I got myself one of those posture supports which was way cheaper. You strap it on your body, and it pushes back your shoulders and your cervical spine, which is the part of the spine below the nape of your neck. Amazingly, it worked.
Olivia Fox Cabane probably gave the best description of good posture in her book The Charisma Myth: your posture should be like that of a dominant gorilla. Chest spread, tummy in, head forward. You might even give a roar. This is the posture of a charismatic person.
Having used the posture support, these are what I discovered:
1. Push your neck upwards such that it lifts your cervical spine. Don't overdo it.
2. Raise your chin so the it is parallel to the floor.
3. Relax your shoulders. Let them hang.
If you do the above, you won't even need the posture support. But there is one more thing:
Keeping yourself upright is not easy for someone who's not used to it. And I've spent half a lifetime with bad posture and I feel my body resisting my efforts. Fortunately, l found this exercise video by FitnessFAQs on YouTube, which is helpful to loosen and ease my muscles into my new posture.
© Osman Mia